While I was growing up I remember people always asking me what I wanted to do. I never really knew how to answer them. Not because I was unaware of all of the job choices that would be laid out infant of me, but because I didn’t fully understand the question. I never wanted to DO just anything. That sounded horribly boring to me, But I did however want to BE everything.
I think that is one of the major flaws in our current system. We rarely ask what we want to BE? Knowing what we want to DO is important but it is only important and effective if we also know what we want to BE!
What we want to be and what we want to do need to fall in alignment with each other if we are going to accomplish anything great. So why do people ignore this so much?
I would say that there are a lot of people who are totally content just doing and not being, but I feel that would be untrue. I see so many people who have a deep desire for something different, something more, they just don’t know the best way of going about attaining it.
We are in such a rush through middle school, high school and college to figure out a career path. We are told to “decide right now what you want to do for the rest of your life” There is so much pressure to make the right choice. The choice that will yield a comfortable lifestyle, stability and a sense of belonging. But in the process many surrender their individuality, they limit their potential and they settle for getting a job rather than creating a life.
Getting a job is much easier than creating a life, but taking the path of acquiring and retaining a job, although easier in the beginning, becomes so dissatisfactory down the line. Where as creating a life, although it can be a struggle at times (sometimes more than others) will have a greater chance at providing life long fulfilling and passionate lifestyle. But in deciding to create a life instead of just working a job you sacrifice many things that make most people comfortable such as stability, consistent and expected income.
Creating a life is one of the hardest things I think I have ever done. I was never one to settle in any sense of the word. When I found myself in positions that had a limited amount of potential for growth I immediately felt claustrophobic. If I didn’t see multiple different paths I could explore I felt as though I was suffocating. Which is why I find myself where I am today. Happy to face the ups and downs, excited about the struggle but obviously more excited about the outcome. More than willing to get creative to make ends meet and most of the time accepting of the unknown.
Creating a life starts with you, your desire to make a system for you based on your needs and desires. So go on, Do good work, Do things that make a difference and Be unapologetically YOU!